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Unveil Your Parental Guidance Type!

Updated: May 7


This quiz assesses your parental guidance type in terms of navigating your child's learning disability.



PLEASE NOTE that if you are reading this, that means you are a dedicated and loving parent who is going above and beyond to be a great parent. I commend your heart and efforts!


As the old saying goes, "Kids don't come with an instruction manual." So, how do you know what to do? Everyone who has become a parent knows that it just works out. Instinct clicks in, and you use your best judgement.

Is your best judgement in harmony with your child's learning disability?

This quiz is not intended to beat up parents, especially good ones like yourselves. Rather, this is to better understand the dissonance that may be causing harm to your cognitively disabled child's resonance. Raising kids without problems is challenging enough. A normal lesson that you learned once upon a time may make sense to you, but that same lesson, as well intention-ed as it is, can land on a cognitively impaired child in a negative way.


Here is an example of well intention-ed guidance that can lead to a bad outcome.


Because of my learning disability, I struggled in school. I had to work really hard just to get a C. Although school was challenging for me, I was very intrigued by human anatomy. It was hard to learn all the Latin names of the different parts of the body, and it was not simple subject matter. However I was fascinated and really enjoyed dissecting frogs and I did not mind the extra time because I enjoyed the time studying the diagrams and diving into the subject.


My teacher observed my genuine interest and suggested that I get on track to becoming a surgeon one day! I was excited and told my Dad


"What if I became a surgeon?"

My Dad loves me and worked really hard to provide me with a great life, I am extremely thankful for him. Further, I trust his wisdom because he was the man of the house and a very successful business man. As a struggling kid who admired his well respected Dad, I leaned on his advice.


"Clay, I am not sure that is the best way to go...You would be great at other things too. To be a surgeon you would have to go to school for a lot of years. You hate school! You wouldn't want to be a doctor or a lawyer, Imagine all those tests, you would struggle for years before you would even have a chance to work. I think you would be happier in a different profession."


I agreed with him and wrote off that possibility. He was right, and I identified myself with his conclusion. I struggled with academics, and I probably would have failed a lot of tests. With other career opportunities out there, I could eventually make just as good a living in a field that did not require such high level of education.


He steered me away from that with good reason. The consequence of steering me away was that I interpreted his comments as "I am not smart enough to become a doctor." I agreed with that, and felt like I was not capable.


That moment contributed to lowering my self esteem, confidence, and belief in my own value...all from a loving and well meaning reflection from a caring Father.


Everything is neither true, nor not true. It is true that he was right, I would have struggled. Maybe It would have taken me 9 years instead of 7 years of higher education. It may have taken 1,000 more hours of study and $80,000 more in costs just to get to the same place. Perhaps that stark contrast with my colleagues would have lead to internal despair. At the worse case, what if I threw in the towel after spending a few hundred thousand dollars and then had to pay off all that student debt WITHOUT the high paying job? He had good reason to say what he said.


Looking back now, it is also true that I would have been a great surgeon. My disability really made me learn how to focus with intense concentration. Because of the shear and unrelenting repetition that I had to embrace, I learned that once it "clicked," I knew it inside and out. Others could regurgitate information easier. I could not regurgitate the information until I had mastered it. In some ways that difference could arguably make me a BETTER surgeon than some of my potential colleagues.


I now know, many decades after that moment, that I am capable of just about anything.



My life's journey was greatly shaped by my parents influence.

As a fellow parent, I say that with respect. We all use our best reason and try to help our kids. The point of this is not to punish, but to learn. I want you to know this, so that they can have the greatest opportunities. You may be saying something that is hurting them, without even knowing it. This quiz is designed to identify those turning points, and if you want to take it past this quiz, The Perception Effect course for parents is designed to teach you, the parent, how to best guide your child through the challenges that come with a learning disability.


With much respect for my father and for you, I thank you for reading this and hope this was helpful.


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