You read that right!
Your answers mean that you lean towards the DISOBEDIENT TYPE!
THIS IS A GOOD THING!
Sometimes it is good to be disobedient. It is good to be OBEDIENT when driving a car in the United States. It is also a good thing to be DISOBEDIENT when doctors told people that it was healthy to smoke cigarettes 75 years ago. Both types can be good or bad, pending on the situation.
In the context of a cognitive dysfunction, it is good to be OBEDIENT when listening to your speech pathologist's positive and educated guidance. It is also a good thing to be DISOBEDIENT when listening to your doctor who, in an educated and genuine way, says there is no realistic chance of getting past this hardship.
Lets review the questions that lead to you being a DISOBEDIENT TYPE!
Remember the question of steering your child's decision making process? If you answered that you would steer them, than that means you are being obedient to your beliefs about what is best for them. The disobedient type is not obedient to their beliefs, and does not steer their child. It is tempting to steer for obvious and good reason! This disobedience free's the child to pursue their genuine interests, without the pressure of pleasing or disappointing their parents. This is a challenging predicament, and one size does not fit all. Sometimes a kid is going into the deep end, and guidance is critical. It is certainly something to consider on a per case basis as kids ask questions and grow up!
Remember the mantra question? Do you follow good rules? Did you say it is not your fault? Are you an emotional support team mostly? Those types of responses are obedient to the rules you grew up learning, that is not a bad thing, as many rules have many good reasons behind them. The disobedient type often has a fighting mantra, or a mantra that does not compliment conventional wisdom. Conventional thoughts lead to conventional acceptance, comforts, etc. There are a lot of good things that come with conventional thought. When challenged with unconventional challenges, it takes an unconventional mantra to break through and defy those challenges. In generalized layman's terms, the golden child should take up a conventional approach, and the struggling child should entertain non conventional approaches. Your mantra is a big influence on which approach is valued.
Remember the belief question? Many would never say that life is just as good with a cognitive disability. Most would agree that it is an unfair hardship that stays with you for life. Maintaining that belief is obedient to the general consensus. Being disobedient to that belief is the first step in defying that endless suffering.
Remember the authorities question...yeah that one is obvious. Those who are disobedient to authority are simply disobedient! Again, this is bad when driving on the road and have rules in place for safe operation. This is good if you are living in Germany in the decade before WWII. Context matters, and one or the other is not necessarily bad.
SO WHY IS THIS IMPORTANT?
This is important because you have the essential tools to overcome this hardship. With anger, persistence, drive, determination, and without obedience to the naysayers, that is the beginning of a wonderful outcome! Pat yourself on the back for your courage and willingness to grab the bull by the horns!
As great as that fight is, it is a heart wrenching fight that can get bloody. Think about it in terms of science. If you keep rolling a big rock down a hill, it won't be long before you get to the bottom and complete the mission. If you roll a big rock up the hill, it is a battle. If it is a huge rock and you trip, it could be a disaster.
I want you to fight with intention. I want you to have the right tools and direction. The directional guidance and support early on can make a difference that can really change your outcomes later on. That is why I am so passionate about this. I was the disobedient fighter type, and I had to fight for many years with that rock up a hill, before I learned how to pivot.
That is why I created The Perception Effect. Once I got the right direction, and learned the right techniques, that is when I took off. I remember dreaming to myself "I wish someone knew better, and could really help me figure this out." The speech pathologist and all were great, but I still felt like I was alone and that no one really understood. No one was there for me, but I can be there for you. I can be there for your child. Yes it is possible, you can do it, and here are a few great tricks to help your child manifest their greatness!
The Perception Effect teaches you what to look for in ways that combine conventional wisdom with unconventional lessons. I needed that combination to do what I did!